This past week we began our Intimacy and Sex in Sobriety series with Jen C. Our first conversation was such a powerful meeting full of brave and vulnerable shares. We're looking forward to the next in the series coming up this week! Jen opened the meeting with a powerful share of her own:
"I realized that if I was going to lead a series of meetings about sex in sobriety, I had to start at the beginning. And for me, that beginning starts with vulnerability.
I could not handle sober sex, or begin to heal from trauma, or start making peace with my body until I learned how to get vulnerable — first with myself, and then with the people I love. Especially my partner. When we get sober, it can be really disorienting for the people in our lives. The dynamic shifts and we’re no longer connecting in the ways we used to when alcohol was in the picture. Suddenly we have to rebuild intimacy and trust in an entirely new way.
For me, this has been a long, sometimes painful, but ultimately beautiful journey. I work with a therapist, a woman in recovery herself, who helps me find the words I need to say, in a way that is honest and true to who I am. There were moments in early sobriety where I had to look at my partner and literally say, “Please tell me you’re proud of me. Tell me I’m beautiful. Tell me you love me.” And I told him how asking for those things made me feel really weak, really exposed, and REALLY uncomfortable. But I knew I had to start being honest about what I needed, because for so long I just numbed those feelings away.
And as hard as it was, I decided that if I was brave enough to do this really hard thing, getting sober, I wasn’t going to waste it by continuing to hide in my life. I wasn’t going to miss the opportunity to finally have real connection, real intimacy, and to figure out who I actually was without all the numbing."
✨Member Celebrations!✨
🎉 Special shout out to Michelle V. on her soberversary! Congratulations Michelle on your 4 years!
✨Community Updates✨
🩵 We are so excited to welcome Laura Cathcart Robbins to a very special meeting of Book Club with Jen on June 9, 2025 at 7:30pm ET. Her Book Stash: My Life in Hiding is a powerful memoir about "a journey to sobriety and self-love amidst privilege and racism." RSVP in the network.
🩵 Just for Fun Book Club coming up Wednesday May 28, 2025 at 7pm ET! Pick up Emily Henry's Great Big Beautiful Life and join in on the fun!
🩵 Intimacy & Sex in Sobriety series special topic meetings. Scheduled for the following dates! RSVP in the network, and drop any thoughts or questions you're interested in discussing in the meeting either in the post in the feed, or DM Jen C directly.
Friday May 23, 2025 at 10am ET
Friday May 30, 2025 at 10am ET
Wednesday June 4, 2025 at 8pm ET
🩵 Chat & Craft meetings are Saturday evenings! These meetings are an opportunity to come together for open conversation and fellowship. As with all meetings, members are more than welcome to just come and listen. We're all busy moms, so if you're multitasking and contributing as you can that works too!
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Warmly,
SMC Team
