May 25, 2025

Taking Your Power Back

Intimacy and Sex in Sobriety series continued this week with Jen! This week's meeting was centered on Healing from Trauma and Shame. So many powerful shares from our members processing our stories.

"The next step in my journey was starting to heal the shame and trauma I’d carried for so long. The things I tried to numb.

I grew up with complicated messages about love and worth. The people I trusted most, taught me that love came with conditions, that my value was tied to how desirable I was, and if someone hurt me, it was my fault. Those beliefs shaped how I showed up in the world and in relationships.

As I got older, I experienced multiple sexual traumas and sought validation anywhere I could find it. Drinking made it easier to disconnect from my feelings but it led me to make choices that pushed me further from the person I wanted to be. I ignored my own boundaries because I didn’t believe I had the right to have them.

Getting sober forced me to confront not just what happened to me, but the choices I made, the ways I coped and the harm I sometimes caused myself in the process. In therapy and the rooms of recovery, I began to learn how to offer love and compassion to myself. I came to believe that I am worthy of respect and care, just as I am.

Healing has been slow, messy, and painful, but it’s also been freeing. Because the truth is that none of those things, the trauma, the mistakes, the ways I tried to feel worthy, get to define me anymore. And every time I share a piece of my story, I take a little more of that power back."

--Jen C.

✨Member Celebrations!✨

🎉 Shout out to Cathy T. on her soberversary! Congratulations Cathy on your 2 years!

✨Community Updates✨

🩵 Just for Fun Book Club coming up this Wednesday May 28, 2025 at 7pm ET! Pick up Emily Henry's Great Big Beautiful Life and join in on the fun!

🩵 We are so excited to welcome Laura Cathcart Robbins to a very special meeting of Book Club on June 9, 2025 at 7:30pm ET. Her Book Stash: My Life in Hiding is a powerful memoir about "a journey to sobriety and self-love amidst privilege and racism." RSVP in the network.

🩵 Announcing author Q&A with Jessica Guerrieri on June 23, 2025 at 7:00pm ET. Drawing on her own experience in sobriety and recovery, her book Between the Devil and the Deep Blue Sea is a beautiful novel that follows a mom who's been everything to everyone and falls into addiction.

🩵 Intimacy & Sex in Sobriety series special topic meetings. Scheduled for the following dates! RSVP in the network, and drop any thoughts or questions you're interested in discussing in the meeting either in the post in the feed, or DM Jen C directly.

Friday May 30, 2025 at 10am ET

Wednesday June 4, 2025 at 8pm ET

🩵Introducing Parenting Children with Neurodiversity private subgroup! Request to join the space in the network and connect with other moms with neurodiverse kiddos.

✨Weekly Meeting Schedule✨

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Warmly,

SMC Team

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